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how to choose a dildo

Choosing the right dildo comes down to three key elements: shape/size/colour, material, and harness compatibility. Finding just the right dildo when you're shopping for you and a partner can be a challenge, often times the best dildo is two, one for each of you. Here are some ideas to get you thinking about selecting the dildo that fits your fantasy: What is the perfect shape, size and colour of your dream dildo? What material do you want your dildo to be made from? Do you want a dildo that will be harness compatible?

dildo materials

Dildos are available in a variety of materials, each with their own pros and cons.

• Silicone rubber dildos are our first choice for quality, variation in shape, size, and colour, and ease of cleaning.
• Jelly rubber dildos are inexpensive and can be great beginner toys, as long as you use a condom on your toy.
• There are several variations in Cyberskin dildos, but they all offer an incredibly soft feel, without the high cost of silicone Vixskin toys. As with plain rubber toys we recommend using condoms on your cyberskin dildos.
• We like to think of our metal and glass dildos as 'special occasion' sex toys. They have a durability and feel that is unparalleled, but their intensity may not be for every day use.
• Some people are concerned about the safety of sex toy materials, and if you're interested we suggest reading up on the safety of sex toy materials, and things to consider if you have allergies or multiple chemical sensitivities.

strap-on harness compatible dildos

If you think you may ever want to use your dildo in a strap-on harness it's best to start with something that is harness compatible. This means making sure your dildo has a flared base wide enough so it won't slip through a standard harness, and making sure you choose something that is firm enough that it won't flop around so much penetration will be impossible. Our recommendation is to stick with the silicone dildos, almost all of which are made with strap-on use in mind.

books & videos about dildos

With the release of sexy sexologists Carol Queen and Robert Morgan's video Bend Over Boyfriend, the whole world of strap-on play gained some much needed attention. As a result, there are now many more resources for folks who are looking to learn how to improve their strap-on style. Check out Bend Over Boyfriend and Bend Over Boyfriend 2.

The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex is one of the most complete guides to playing with dildos and harnesses. No matter your gender or the gender of the person you're doing, this book discusses strap-on sex in all of its forms. You might also want to take a look at The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio by Violet Blue for tips on how to give a great blow-job to your strap-on partner.

Other recommended reading: The Guide to Getting It On The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex