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winter 2009, no 47

The Best Gift We Have to Give

You'd think with a store full of erotic goodies that we'd want to use this space to tell you about the hottest vibrators and best DVD gift sets for holiday giving. But we're not your usual sex shop or your usual co-op, so we rarely do things the usual way. What we want to tell you about instead is what we think our real gift is as a company; our sexual culture and values. We recently launched our new website and made public a document we'd been working on for some time, the eleven core values of Come As You Are. Over the next few newsletters we want to share these with you. As this is the season of giving and receiving, we thought we'd start with values that reflect the importance of both to sexual pleasure, health, and happiness.

Core Value #9: Be Generous
Being generous means putting ourselves in other people's shoes. There's so much sexual judgment in our world. Come As You Are is a place free of that, where you'll find compassion and empathy wherever you are in your sexual exploration and development.

We don't believe anything good comes from withholding knowledge, particularly about sex. Ask us anything about our products and our co-op; we guarantee you an honest answer. Ask us twelve more questions and we'll come back with more information. We don't think there's such a thing as too many questions and want people to know what they're getting before they buy it.

Our spirit of generosity begins inside our co-operative. In addition to profit sharing and health benefits, we support an extensive continuing education program that encourages personal and professional growth, as well as in-store workshops and a fully subsidized educational outreach program.

Core Value #1: Sex the Way You Want It
The Come As You Are culture believes you should have the kind of sex you want, not settle for the kind you (ought to) have.

Being sex positive at Come As You Are means considering sexuality to be a site of tremendous health, pleasure and strength in our lives. We also realize that many of us have experienced physical, emotional, and psychic pain around sexuality. We are great cheerleaders of the positive potential of sex, but proceed with respect and awareness that sometimes sex can feel too painful to talk about.

Whether you want to have lots of sex or no sex at all, our approach goes beyond being non-judgmental; we positively and actively affirm diverse sexual choices, and support the radical act of asking "what do I want sexually?"

We take an activist approach to mainstream ideas about sexuality, by providing perspectives that differ from mainstream contexts and by modeling respectful, non-judgmental, mature approaches. We welcome everyone to participate in a friendlier and more open way of thinking about and experiencing sexuality.

Read more about Come As You Are's core values and culture

 

News

Name Our Packer

Is that a new packer in your pants, or are you just happy to see us? Maybe it's both, since there's definitely a new packer in town. We were feeling a need for a more affordable but still durable packer, and one that would give us a colour selection, so we turned to our local dildo manufacturer, Happy Valley and asked them to turn our dreams into reality. We're proud to announce the launch of our brand new silicone packer called…um, well, we don't know what it is called yet, but we're hoping you can help! Check out our packer (currently called Mister No Name) in our Toronto store or online, and submit your suggestion for a name. If we choose your name, you'll receive your very own packer and a Come As You Are gift basket. All entries (not just the winning one!) will receive 10% off any purchase from our website. View details at www.comeasyouare.com/nameourpacker.

4th Annual Erotic Arts and Crafts Fair

Across the GTA folks are warming up their sewing machines and dusting off their home kilns to get to work for another fabulous Erotic Arts and Crafts Fair. Know someone who makes erotic crafts, or been dreaming about your own clever concoctions? Get ready! Applications are now being accepted at www.eroticartsandcrafts.com. Deadline for applying is January 3rd, 2010. We'll see you all back again at the Gladstone Hotel on February 13th where you can fine creative solutions for that one-of-a-kind Valentine's surprise.

Lelo Holiday Contest

We're so charmed by our brand new Lelo rechargeables: Mona, Lola, and Billy that we want to share the magic with everybody. For this month's giveaway we want to hear your favourite erotic holiday indulgences. We know the season can be tough, and sometimes sex can keep you going. So share what you think makes the holiday season sexiest and you'll be entered to win a Lelo surprise just in time for the holidays. Entries must be received by December 1st to contests@comeasyouare.com.

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Aslan Leather Handy Cuff Restraints Part hardcore leather bracelet, part wrist restraint, Aslan Leather's Handy Cuff is the most convenient and effective wrist restraint system we've seen since Aslan Leather launched the Bondage Belt so many years ago. Each restraint can even be locked with a mini padlock! This item is currently out of stock | Learn more about Aslan Leather Handy Cuff Restraints. | $45.00	Aslan Leather Handy Cuff Restraints	4500
Beyond Seven 12 Pack One of our favourite Japanese condoms! Beyond Seven condoms are made of super-thin latex, and fit a little snugger than the average condom to provide a better fit, and to increase sensation for the wearer. | Learn more about Beyond Seven 12 Pack. | $14.00	Beyond Seven 12 Pack	1400
Devour Me Lickable Oil Sometimes it can be so hard to decide whether you want your hands all over your lover, or if you just want to devour them. We think you should be able to have both! While there are plenty of massage oils that don't taste bad, there are so few that actually taste good! Good Vibrations has ponied up the sweet without the sticky with their Devour Me Lickable Body Oil. Sensual and delicious! Ingredients: Sweet Almond Oil, Flavor Oils | Learn more about Devour Me Lickable Oil. Creme Brulee Strawberry | $8.00	Devour Me Lickable Oil	800
Fleshlight Cyborg Indulge in the most out-of-this-world fantasy this Valentine's with the Fleshlight Cyborg sleeve! With ridges, bumps, and grooves unique only to this limited edition Fleshlight, the Cyborg brings you one step closer to realizing your deepest, darkest sci-fi fantasies, and Fleshlight's flashlight-like case, is easy to clean and keeps your new toy discreet, and can be removed for a more intimate experience with a partner. Amazing for sci-fi fetishists, Fleshlight collectors, and folks just looking to delve a little deeper into the unknown. | Learn more about Fleshlight Cyborg. Pink | $85.00	Fleshlight Cyborg	8500
Fleshlight Pirates Stoya Our favourite masturbation toy, and our favourite pirate-themed porn, all in one amazing collectable package! Stoya's Pirates Fleshlight was cast from a mold of Stoya the Destroya herself and is adorned by her signature in cyberskin. The unique lotus insert is unavailable in other Fleshlights and provides amazing stimulation from both the ridges and the suction chamber (the amount of suction in any Fleshlight can be adjusted by tightening or loosening the bottom cap!) Get your hands on this limited edition while you can! | Learn more about Fleshlight Pirates Stoya. | $85.00	Fleshlight Pirates Stoya	8500
Fleshlight Sex in a Can Jack's Gape Soda The Fleshlight's Sex in a Can is back in Canada, and comes in more flavours than ever! Jack's Gape Soda comes in a semi-discreet plastic 'can' and opens up to reveal Fleshlight's famous realistic feeling sleeve. This unique insert (not available on classic Fleshlights) features rows of intense bumps for intense stimulation in a relatively small package. | Learn more about Fleshlight Sex in a Can Jack's Gape Soda. | $65.00	Fleshlight Sex in a Can Jack's Gape Soda	6500
Fukuoku 6000 Finger Vibrator It's the world's smallest finger vibrator, and it's buzzing just for you! This tiny, medium-strength vibrator is worn around your finger and only activates when you touch it! Single speed. Tons of fun flying solo, or with a friend! | Learn more about Fukuoku 6000 Finger Vibrator. Purple | $16.00	Fukuoku 6000 Finger Vibrator	1600
Happy Valley Ergo Plug Get into anal play the ERGOnomic way with the Canadian-made Ergo plug! With the perfect curve for prostate play (or g-spot - just remember to boil between uses!), Happy Valley's silicone Ergo plug represents the natural evolution of the Pleasure Plug series. Slender and smooth and perfect for folks just starting out in their anal play adventure, but with all the stay-putted-ness you've come to expect from Happy Valley. They don't call it the Happiest Valley in Canada for nothing! | Learn more about Happy Valley Ergo Plug. Red Purple | $20.00	Happy Valley Ergo Plug	2000
Hot Dams! Non-latex (polyurethane) dams. Thin and silky smooth, great for play. Unscented & unflavoured. Compatible with all lubricants. | Learn more about Hot Dams!. Regular | $2.00	Hot Dams!	200
Jimmyjane Form 2 Put the best part of the bunny right in the palm of your hand with Jimmyjane’s Form 2! Inspired by the classic (and most famous vibrator) the Rabbit Habit, Jimmyjane has taken the most iconic part of the rabbit, and transformed it into a intuitive and partner-friendly-toy. With twin-motors, the Form 2 puts the vibration right where you want it, and with easy-to-use controls, the vibration is as soft or strong as you desire. Waterproof. Rechargeable. One-year-warranty. | Learn more about Jimmyjane Form 2. Grey Pink | $145.00	Jimmyjane Form 2	14500
Jimmyjane Form 3 Whether you’re looking for a solo or shared adventure this Valentine’s Day, Jimmyjane’s Form 3 truly puts pleasure in the palm of your hand. The Form 3 provides true multi-mode and multi-speed vibration in a slick silicone package, and it’s unique concave design allows you target the sensation precisely by pressing down on the centre of the toy. The slim, curved profile of this vibrator makes it quite ideal for partner play. Waterproof. Rechargeable. Amazing. | Learn more about Jimmyjane Form 3. Grey Pink | $145.00	Jimmyjane Form 3	14500
Jimmyjane Form 4 Love Jimmyjane’s smooth silicone sensuality, but find yourself wanting something more versatile? The Jimmyjane Form 4 has all of the waterproof multi-speed and multi-mode fun as the other forms, and so much more! Perfect for more penetrative forms of play, but great for external fun just like its forbearers. | Learn more about Jimmyjane Form 4. Pink | $145.00	Jimmyjane Form 4	14500
Jimmyjane Form 6 The next generation of luxury vibrators is here. From the creators of the Little Gold and Little Steel, the Form 6 is Jimmyjane's remarkable, rechargeable multi-function silicone creation. With two independently-controlled vibrating 'pleasure centers', a sleek and streamlined design that is fully waterproof, the Form 6 is the new gold standard for luxury sex toys. Now improved and waterproof! Charging station fully encloses the Form 6 for a clean and discreet charge every time. | Learn more about Jimmyjane Form 6. Grey Pink | $185.00	Jimmyjane Form 6	18500
Lelo Tiani No one can keep up with the Swedish creators of these true objects of pleasure. New from the waterproof, rechargeable Insignia line comes the truly wireless and wearable Lelo Tiani. Similar to the We-Vibe in design, Tiani is designed to be able to provide vibration to the wearer during sex, hitting all the right spots - and adding a remote control for easier access to Lelo's sensitive variable speed and multi-mode vibration. This vibe is also discreet enough to be your little secret when you're out on the town, and the remote control provides endless possibilities for pleasure. Even more amazingly, the remote control vibrates and pulses along with the vibrator allowing the controller to feel exactly what you're feeling when you're feeling it. This is vibe that truly brings people together, instead of getting in the way of intimacy. | Learn more about Lelo Tiani. Black Rose | $165.00	Lelo Tiani	16500
Lick Me Body Butter For those looking to add some sweetness to their massage, Lick Me Body Butter is made of candelilla wax, shea butter, and sweet almond oil, and is completely edible.  Lick Me can be used for massage, as a sensual taste experience, or both! | Learn more about Lick Me Body Butter. Vanilla Raspberry | $15.00	Lick Me Body Butter	1500
Lust Dust Body Powder One of the most inspired sensual products around is most certainly edible body powders.  Made primarily of cornstarch,  Lust Dust Edible Body Powder is gently dusted onto your lover’s body, and then licked off.   | Learn more about Lust Dust Body Powder. Vanilla Raspberry | $12.00	Lust Dust Body Powder	1200
Minna Ola Vibrator Do you know that feeling when you're so taken with someone or something and words just don't do justice to the object of your affection? The Ola from Minna Life makes us wish we'd never called another toy 'ingenious' or 'revolutionary' or 'waterproof' if only so we'd have words special enough to convey how intelligent, beautiful, functional and, well, ingenious this toy really is. On the surface, Ola appears to be a rechargeable vibrator with all of the bells-and-whistles we've grown accustomed to: very high quality parts and hypoallergenic materials, long lifespan and awesome one-year warranty, multi-mode and multi-speed vibration, and the list goes on. What's truly special is that the Ola is not controlled with buttons or a dial, but it responds to your own touch. Looking for mild vibration? Squeeze Ola gently to produce a gently vibration. Want more? Squeeze a little harder. When you find a pulse or a speed you dig, Ola will remember it for you, and play it back as many times as you'd like. Or! Change it up as you go and discover something new every time! Ola's smooth curves make it great for g-spot play or external fun - solo or with your partner. | Learn more about Minna Ola Vibrator. Pink Purple | $165.00	Minna Ola Vibrator	16500
One Touch Rocket Vibe If you've ever fallen in love with a One-Touch Bullet, or the Luxe Bullet, but were still left longing for something a bit larger, Rocks Off's One-Touch Rocket (RO120mm) is sure to satisfy. With multi-speed push-button controls and a fully waterproof design, the One-Touch Rocket is the classic rocket taken to the extreme. | Learn more about One Touch Rocket Vibe. Silver | $25.00	One Touch Rocket Vibe	2500
Rub Me Massage Bar There have never been so many options for someone looking to give a little erotic massage - we have low-temperature massage candles, classic massage oils, and massage lotions - and now we have Good Vibrations’ Rub Me Massage Bar.  Made from pure cocoa butter, shea butter and essential oils, this massage bar melts slowly with your body heat, and is ideal when you’re looking to keep your massage from getting too messy. | Learn more about Rub Me Massage Bar. Coconut Lavender Vanilla | $8.00	Rub Me Massage Bar	800
Touch Me Massage Oil From our sex-positive once-co-operative cousins at Good Vibrations comes another superior sensual product. With few ingredients, and both scented and unscented offerings, Good Vibes' massage products are simple and sensual and quite inexpensive to boot. Ingredients: Sweet Almond Oil, Tocopherol (Antioxidant), Essential Oil | Learn more about Touch Me Massage Oil. Vanilla Naked Pomegranate Mint | $9.00	Touch Me Massage Oil	900
Vibratex Violet Vibrator The rabbit-style vibrators of television fame have come a long, long way since Sex in the City. Vibratex's original Violet vibrator (made in Japan, just like their other phenomenal dual-function and rabbit vibes) brings all of the rotating joy of the classic and adds almost countless functions - all easy to control, of course! The Violet rotates in both directions, provides multi-speed and multi-mode vibration, and is made of sensuous and body-safe silicone. | Learn more about Vibratex Violet Vibrator. Purple | $100.00	Vibratex Violet Vibrator	10000
Yes! Baby Fertility Friendly Organic Lube Fertility-friendly (or sperm-friendly) lubricants are an incredible breakthrough for folks looking to keep using lube while trying to conceive. Back when we opened in 1997, the only lubricant we could offer to people wanting to ensure their lubricant wasn't interfering with conception was egg whites (seriously!). While fertility-friendly lubricants won't get you pregnant, they've been clinically shown to not interfere with sperm motility. Yes! Baby is more than a fertility-friendly lube. Instead, this is a kit completely with two lubricants (for when you're actively trying to conceive, and to help maintain pH when you're not) and ovulation test strips. Like all Yes! products, this lubricant is certified organic and water-based. Ingredients: Aloe vera*, Guar gum*, Locust bean gum*, Honeysuckle Flower Extract, Sodium chloride, Citric acid, Sodium hydroxide, Flax extract*, Xanthan Gum, Sodium chloride, Potassium Sorbate, Phenoxyethanol. * Indicates certified organic ingredient. This item is currently out of stock | Learn more about Yes! Baby Fertility Friendly Organic Lube. | $32.00	Yes! Baby Fertility Friendly Organic Lube	3200
Action After just a quick flip though Action, patterns emerge that point to Kern’s favourite personal touches – a fondness for nylons and high heels, on-location shooting and a subtle appreciation for 90’s pop culture. Upon giving this volume some more attention, though, it becomes apparent that the models’ personalities and senses of humour play a vital part in the creation of the photographs, too: cigarettes being smoked from between toes, pin-ups posed with birth control pills in hand, gleeful interactions with sex toys and groceries all add curiosity and quirkiness to this sexy visual feast.Complete with an accompanying DVD and a clever disguise in the form of a reversible dust jacket, this gorgeously glossy book of photographs by erotic photographer Richard Kern is definitely an amusing and exciting ride! Edited by Dian Hanson | Learn more about Action. | $19.99	Action	1999
Backdraft Hot, hot, hot! Backdraft is a smokin collection of gay erotica with a focus on those ever-sexy firemen. In The Dixville Volunteers, a fresh from high school recruit gets more than he bargained for from his fireman teacher. In Firestarter, a full-on pyromaniac hooks up with a newly divorced hunk from the hall. These pages are chock full of sex, love, courage, hard muscles, and adventure. | Learn more about Backdraft. | $17.00	Backdraft	1700
Best Gay Bondage Erotica A collection of short stories featurng hot men all tied up and waiting! Best Gay Bondage Erotica features stories such as My Eighteenth Birthday, in which a young man who ties himself up and stares at other men through a telescope has his fantasies answered as a birthday present, and In the Heat of the Night, where two cowboys alone on the praries get hot and horny, utilizing their whip, reins, and willow tree. | Learn more about Best Gay Bondage Erotica. | $19.50	Best Gay Bondage Erotica	1950
Best Lesbian Bondage Erotica Best Lesbian Bondage Erotic is full of short stories about, you guessed it, getting tied up and tying others up. Stories range from sci-fi prison cells, to romantic romps in the snow while picking out the Christmas tree, to genital water torture. A great collection for those that are fans of girl-on-girl powerplay. | Learn more about Best Lesbian Bondage Erotica. | $19.50	Best Lesbian Bondage Erotica	1950
Best Women's Erotica 2012 Violet Blue collects the most exciting pieces of steamy hot sex scenes for the latest edition of Best Women's Erotica anthology, courtesy of Cleis Press. From bad, bad spanking to first-time threesomes, playing naughty with a living doll to having hot, nasty public sex in a pogoda blindfolded, these spicy treats go beyond what you expect from the old days of tame romance novels. Women's pleasure is central to every short, making sure that every tension-filled scene ends in amazing female orgasms, for characters and readers alike! | Learn more about Best Women's Erotica 2012. | $24.50	Best Women's Erotica 2012	2450
BK-731 Whether you’re a fan of Manara’s rich signature style of illustration, or simply curious about the lush history of the relationships between artists and models, this book is a worthwhile experience! Manara’s versions of more than sixty famous and not-so-famous artworks centered around the female form are vibrant, sensual and breathtakingly rendered in a colourful variety of media. Included on each page are intimate anecdotes from art history and legend, bringing a range of contexts into this visual ode to artist’s models and muses from prehistory into the imagined future: “…while we’re ready to reward artists with honors and recognition, nobody seems to remember the models. This work hopes to be a modest attempt at this acknowledgement.” | Learn more about BK-731. | $40.00	BK-731	4000
Brazen Femme Femmes frustrated with their relational identity to Butches and pissed-off over stereotypes that they are simply to amazing to fit spill their guts on these pages in the form of poetry, comics, prose and essays on the fabulous and tremulous world of Femmes. Professors, sex workers, journalists and the unemployed articulate their relationship to femme(inity) and their re-making of gendered femininity through their hardbreaks, invisibility in queer communities and daily embodied living. Broaching such topics as dealing with ageing, racism and gender, mothering and fat phobia, these Brazen Femmes break through the rigid Butch/Femme barrier with their fierce and bold articulation of their gender(s) | Learn more about Brazen Femme. | $21.95	Brazen Femme	2195
Burlesque West Showgirls, Sex and Sin in Postwar Vancouver Burlesque West, the book that spurred a national controversy over public funding of academic work on sex history, is the first to take a critical look at western Canada's history of burlesque, peeler bars and the lives of strip-tease workers. Becki L. Ross's extensive research, with first-hand accounts from exotic dancers, club owners and bookers, delves into the exciting world of the entertainment industry that held Vancouver as one of the most notorious and saught-after night-scenes of the burlesque circit era. Ross's recognition of the complexe and mutlifacited lives of exotic-dancers, from work-related issues such as fighting for unionization, to their efforts for entreprenural self-promotion really strips bares superficial stereotypes of the sex club industry. Taking into account the class and racial geographical divide of west versus east Vancouver, Rossi's historical work operates with an anti-racist and cross-sectional framework, looking at the influences of different communities on the exotic entertainment industry that helped fuel the economy of one of Canada's largest city. | Learn more about Burlesque West. | $29.95	Burlesque West	2995
Fast Feminism Fast Feminism combines the velocity of speed theory and beat poets with a perversion of post-structural thought to create a theory-in-action that takes no prisoners from the old guard of male stream philosophy and sexology. Triumphing the female phallus and tracing it's concealed and broken path throughout medical, philosophical and pornographic history, Shannon Bell reclaims the power of the female body that has been lost in the muck of patriarchal knowledge. Bell's life-long work around the female phallus shows the political and personal importance of embracing and taking pride in the magnificent feats of female ejaculation. This face paced and chaotic living theoretical work is speckled with recounted scenes of racy sexual encounters, fusing sex theory and practice whilst giving it to the dead old white men of the academic past. For gender theory lovers who are tired of the droll of academic work, Fast Feminism's erotic, taboo-breaking and mind-shaking prose will have you on the edge of your seat, or maybe under your sheets. | Learn more about Fast Feminism. | $16.00	Fast Feminism	1600
Female Erotic Photography These gorgeous black-and-white erotic photographs feature the female form in sexy satin heels and long black gloves, in showers and pools. With bright red lips and dark smokey eyes, these gals smoke cigars in bathtubs, flip through books in their lingerie and lounge on yatchs docks in luxury. | Learn more about Female Erotic Photography. | $44.95	Female Erotic Photography	4495
Hot Sex "Hot Sex" is not your average positions sex book. This beautifully illustrated book is informative yet playful and fun- simply chalk full of exciting things to try. Sex educators Emily Morse and Jayme Waxman (who's workshops "Blowjob Bootcamp" and "Uncovering the "O" are often held in store at Come As You Are) share their tricks, tips and techniques to explore. Their best advice? Enthusiasm! (Heterosexual focus) Jamye Waxman and Emily Morse. | Learn more about Hot Sex. | $22.95	Hot Sex	2295
Juxtapose Erotica Juxtapose Erotica features oil based, graffiti, water-colour and graphic art depictions of nude women in various states of undress by artists such as David Choe, Audrey Kawasaki and Tomer Hanuka amongst many others. Fantastical illustrations of octopi women, bodacious babes and surreal glowing bosoms and bottoms grace the pages of this eclectic collections of erotic art. Despite the intro that attempts to make the problematic distinction between "pornography" and "erotic," this compilation of gorgeous erotic contemporary art is a must for art and erotic lovers alike. | Learn more about Juxtapose Erotica. | $30.95	Juxtapose Erotica	3095
Lesbian Sex: 101 Positions While most other sex position guides out there just depict straight-up hetero sex between a man and a woman, Lesbian Sex covers 101 positions for women to try together. Illustrating positions for oral sex, manual sex, playing with toys, and much more, this book contains enough new ideas to get you and your partner going - with a checklist at the back so you can chart your progress! Hardcover. | Learn more about Lesbian Sex: 101 Positions. | $21.00	Lesbian Sex: 101 Positions	2100
Long Distance Relationship Survival Guide Truly an indespensible tool for those who have found the love of their lives in another country, city, or continent, the Long Distance Relationship Survivial Guide is packed full of hints and tips, true stories (both happy and sad), and best of all, "conversation starters" throughout the book that are specific to those in the situation. Excellent for planning, learning, exploring, and growing within relationships. | Learn more about Long Distance Relationship Survival Guide. | $18.99	Long Distance Relationship Survival Guide	1899
Love and Lust: A Sex Journal What's a sex fantasy that you would actually do at a moment's notice, no questions asked? Where are all the places you would like to have sex? How long can you stand to be teased? In this guided journal of love, lust and sex, Suzie Bright will put you on a path towards sexploration as you think about your desires, sexual history and hopes for the future. Write down your naughtiest fantasies, confess your dirtiest sexcapades and delve into your own sexual self in these pages awaiting your inscripture. Includes a lock and two keys for privacy or to be thrown away with abandon. What will your sex journal say? | Learn more about Love and Lust: A Sex Journal. | $23.95	Love and Lust: A Sex Journal	2395
Nylon Girls Gals with cuban heels and laced-up bodices, thigh highs and vintage garter belts collide in this erotic photography book for those who love the nyloned look. Christine Kessler photographs these women in fish-nets and torn up leggings with a hint of kink to titilate your senses. | Learn more about Nylon Girls. | $25.50	Nylon Girls	2550
Paying For It: A Comic Strip About Being A John Chester Brown's comic "Paying For It" delves into his personal experience as a john, dealing with loaded topics such as possessive monogamy and the stigmatization sex workers and johns. A much needed entry into discussion around sex work, Brown's work is not without faults (with his over-generalization of sex work activism, depictions of feminists as sex-negative and generally body and beauty normative ideas); yet we are grateful for a comic that brazenly begins the much needed discussion around sex work. | Learn more about Paying For It: A Comic Strip About Being A John. | $24.95	Paying For It: A Comic Strip About Being A John	2495
Pride & Prejudice: Hidden Lusts For those of us who longed for the tension between Mr.Darcy and Miss Elizabeth Bennet to break in bodice ripping passionate sex, Mitzi Szereto's perversion of Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice is the perfect erotic novel. Skirts are raised high, breeches bursts their buttons, buttocks are flogged and whipped, and the characters intermingled scandalous sex lives will get you hot! | Learn more about Pride & Prejudice: Hidden Lusts. | $17.95	Pride & Prejudice: Hidden Lusts	1795
Rent Girl Rent Girl "Rent Girl" follows Michelle Tea's autobiographical tale of her forays into sex work, bringing an honest and complete look into her personal experience in a field of work so often misunderstood and disregarded. Beautifully illustrated by Laureen McCubbin, this graphic novel about Tea's break-ups, john date's, parties and poverty is surprisingly lightened by her wit, charm and perceptiveness.  | Learn more about Rent Girl. | $26.00	Rent Girl	2600
Sex Education Dictionary A great resource for parents to give to their children while they learn about their bodies, sex and sexuality, this kid-friendly dictionary describes what all sorts of sex-related terms are and how to pronounce them. Includes illustrations, and even has puzzles and games. Mostly focused on reproductive organs and pregnancy, but also covers many general sex terms as well. | Learn more about Sex Education Dictionary. | $11.95	Sex Education Dictionary	1195
Sexual Healing A book for those looking to overcome sexual problems, written in a way that's in-depth, but very practical and easy to understand. Focussing on some of the most common problems that individauls and couples experience; topics such as low desire, sexual aversion, female and male orgasm and arousal disorders, and vaginismus. Using solo and partner activities, this book step-by-step helps heal relationships, emotions, as well as pain. Heterosexual focus. | Learn more about Sexual Healing. | $24.50	Sexual Healing	2450
Sovereign Erotics A Collection of Two-Spirited Literature This book is a collection of poems, essays, fiction and non-fiction alike that, not unlike it's authors, cannot fit neatly into any defined box. One of the first to give voice to the highly misunderstood lives of the two-spirited person, this book truly represents the humour, thoughtfulness and complexities of the two-spirites community. With contributors ranging from Western Canada to Eastern Samoa, spanning such topics as friendship, love, sexuality, memory and loss, this queer indigeounous collection is a mile-stone voicing indigenous resilience. | Learn more about Sovereign Erotics. | $26.95	Sovereign Erotics	2695
Stripped Naked Peter Gorman's "Stripped Naked" follows girls home to their messy rooms, cluttered bathrooms and rumpled beds to catch them in their most sensuous and sexy moments. Dressed up and down, bare naked and half-clothed, this photography collection is refreshingly real. | Learn more about Stripped Naked. | $40.95	Stripped Naked	4095
The History of German Porn This tour through the history of German porn, from amature photography to nudist enthusiasts, dispells the myth of the sexual repression of Germany and shows German's secret life of pornography. Mostly filled with black and white photography and complete with historical commentary of the night life, nude beaches and homoeroticism, "The History of German Porn" is some great vintage porn! | Learn more about The History of German Porn. | $30.95	The History of German Porn	3095
The Secret Life of Syrian Lingerie "The Secret Life of Syrian Lingerie" explores the interesting dualistic sex culture in Syrian inner-city markets, where veiled women buy hoards of imaginative and playful racy lingerie. Pictures of Syrian lingerie tacked with plastic butterflies, tweety-bird, feathers, cell phones and sequence abound, all paying tribute to the Syrian humorous approach to their often secret sex lives. Complete with interviews from various walks of life and tales from Lingerie lovers and those not-so-enthused, this interesting exploration into this niche industry demonstrates the colorful outcome of class distinctions and religious convictions, all reflected in the openly displayed burlap g-strings and curtain bras of the Syrian market place in Damascus. | Learn more about The Secret Life of Syrian Lingerie. | $32.50	The Secret Life of Syrian Lingerie	3250
Dangerous Curves DVD In case you haven’t figured it out from the title, this is a movie about BBWs. Starring one of our favourite big, beautiful babes, April Flores is stunning and sensual in this film directed by her husband Carlos Batts. Just because the sex in this film may not be intense, does not mean the presentation isn’t. Soft, alternatively shot, and with unique and gorgeous backdrops, you may find yourself in a trance glued in by the visual beauty that is Dangerous Curves. | Learn more about Dangerous Curves DVD. | $35.00	Dangerous Curves	3500
Expert Guide To Advanced Anal Sex DVD You read it right, ADVANCED anal! Tristan Taormino is never a disappointment with her unrelenting dedication to getting us the facts in her usual sex positive and healthy way that we’ve come to know and love. Tips and tricks for men and women alike, we learn how to step it up a notch with new positions and greater info to make anal sex more adventurous and pleasurable for all! This item is currently out of stock | Learn more about Expert Guide To Advanced Anal Sex DVD. | $35.00	Expert Guide To Advanced Anal Sex	3500
Expert Guide to Positions DVD Explore new ways to have sex, and master those old stand-bys with Tristan Taormino and the Expert Guide to Positions. Learn about factors to consider when choosing a position (angle and access, friction, orgasm, mood, etc), how to alter favourite positions to achieve new sensations, why some positions are better for different situations, how to accommodate positions for anal penetration, and much more. Excellent for couples who want to add new and exciting positions to their repertoire as well as new couples exploring and learning about each others' bodies. Can also be used as a game - put the movie on while having sex, and copy the positions that the couples in the movie are performing! This item is currently out of stock | Learn more about Expert Guide to Positions DVD. | $35.00	Expert Guide to Positions	3500
Good Vibrations DVD Everyone can have fun with a vibrator, and this cute movie shows how much fun a couple can have playing with toys together! Each scene features a girl, and a guy, and a vibe! | Learn more about Good Vibrations DVD. | $35.00	Good Vibrations	3500
My Own Master DVD Yes, Mistress Kane! Here comes a hot and steamy new flick directed by, and starring, the shamelessly selfish Kimberly Kane. Get ready as Kimberly bosses around a sweetly naïve young woman to clean her kitchen and showcase her “assets”, she has her way with Wolf Hudson and Danny Wylde in a wicked threesome, and shamelessly plays with herself teasing the audience. A whole lot of sex that is far from clean, this film is awesome for anyone who loves a good helping of nasty and punk rock in their smut. | Learn more about My Own Master DVD. | $35.00	My Own Master	3500
Canes & Caning Workshop With Canemaker Adrian Rattan canes are the most versatile of BDSM implements - because of their controllability they can impart sensations that range from a butterfly's kiss to the sting of a thousand bees. Not just an instrument of severe punishment, a cane can also be used to take someone on a magic carpet ride. When: Saturday, February 18, 2012, 7:30 – 9:30 PM Where: Come As You Are Cost: $30/per person (sliding scale is available) | Learn more about Canes & Caning Workshop. | $30.00	Canes & Caning Workshop	3000
Erotic Memoir: A Writing Workshop With Susie Bright A sex journal is like any diary - it simply doesn’t hide or lie about the sexual part of life. It’s a place to preserve your private adventures, remind yourself of close calls, and think about your fantasies, as well as contemplate things you’ve never put to words before. In this workshop, Susie Bright will get you writing, on the spot, to bring candor and articulation to your sexual history and philosophy. She’ll give you the prompts and chops to say what needs to be said to explore the sexual aspects of your life through memoir. When: Tuesday, March 27th, 2012. 7:30-9:30PM (Doors open at 7PM) Where: Come As You Are Cost: $35/person | Learn more about Erotic Memoir: A Writing Workshop . | $35.00	Erotic Memoir: A Writing Workshop	3500
Sex Positive Parenting Workshop With Susie Bright What’s a sex-positive parent to do? There’s your own life as a lover and a parent, and then there’s seeing your children develop their own sexual perceptions and values. Let’s unpack the sexual revolution of parenthood, from the time when you first get pregnant, the baby-and-little-kid years- to finally, the real marathon: kids reaching puberty and mom hitting menopause. Yes, this IS the place to talk about things you won’t hear on Oprah. There’s physical and practical information to share, and emotional and ethical questions that can’t be ignored. What are the most important things you can do, as a parent, to give your children sexual sanity? How do you nurture and enjoy your own mojo as the years go by? Come with your questions- I’ll have plenty more for you, plus some answers you won’t hear anyplace else. When: Wednesday, March 28, 2012. 7:30-9:30PM (Doors open at 7PM) Where: Come As You Are Cost: $35/person | Learn more about Sex Positive Parenting Workshop. | $35.00	Sex Positive Parenting Workshop	3500